Mother’s Day. A day that brings mixed feelings for Mom’s who worked a little harder to build our family than most. Its a day of celebration for those of us who longed to receive a flower at church or breakfast in bed courtesy of a proud, flour covered child. We are finally part of it, rather than being on the outside looking in.
But it is also impossible to forget the pain and loneliness we felt in the days when this day was just another reminder of that title we had yet to earn. For the infertile woman whose heart is aching to be a Mother, this day and all its sappy commercials in the weeks leading up to it can’t come and go fast enough.
For me, Mother’s Day is even more conflicting because of what it means to us. You see, Spork was transferred to me as one of three microscopic embryos on Mother’s Day three years ago. She had been waiting in cryofreeze for over a year for me to finally bring her home. 12 days later I learned I was pregnant for the first time. For that reason, Mother’s Day will always be magical for me. It’s the day I was literally reunited with my first and only child after years of infertility and three previous embryo transfers.
But I have not forgotten what this day meant to me before I became a Mom. I can’t forget my friends who still desperately want to become a Mom. And of course I cannot forget those who lost a pregnancy, infant, or child of any age.
Today I am praying for all women, not just Mother’s. I am praying that those who have never known the pain of infertility and loss never do. I pray that the wait ends soon for those that are still waiting. I pray for peace and healing for those who are reliving a loss today. I pray for all mothers who gave their child and adoptive family the greatest give you can give. And I pray in great thanks for what I have and for the people and processes that made it possible, because I do know what I have. I do.
Peace and love to you all. May the world be kind to you today and may our Mother’s Day story bring those that need it hope instead of pain.
Laughter Through Tears 
Great post 🙂 couldn’t have said it better myself!
This is perfect!
Thank you!
Happy mother’s day. I still struggle mightily with mothers day not just for infertility but for those that have lost mama’s and for those that have lost babies. It just seems a bit too much the way we carry on. Regardless I hope you got a cup of tea in bed and a bajillion kisses from your baby.
Thanks love. It was a nice day, right up to the point she started barfing in the middle of a long line of people waiting to get ice cream at DQ. An embarrassing mess, but wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Agree on those who lost Mom’s. Thought about adding that to the post but decided to keep it tailored to the adoption, IF, and loss community. You are totally right, hard day for those who have lost mothers or those who don’t have a good relationship with Mom.
Hugs. It’s over.
A lovely tribute.
Thank you. I enjoyed your piece as well.
Thanks, Alisa.